Sunday, April 8, 2012

Getting Settled, Catching Up and Growing Up!



Yesterday, April 7, marked one month since our arrival back home and we have been basking in the warmth of the delicious Colorado sunshine, our loved ones, being in our cozy little home, and getting adjusted to a new environment. 

Of course, the surrounds are the same to me with one big exception: 

I HAVE A BABY!! 

Where did this beautiful little creature come from "all of a sudden!?"  Did I REALLY just spend 3. 5 months in Ethiopia!?  It is still a bit surreal at times.  I joked with my colleague Michael Novick (who shares a July 26 birthday with TBK!!!,) that I better put a post-it note on my rear view mirror in the car so I don't forget that TBK is in the baby bucket in the back seat!!!

It has been incredibly moving to learn of how many people have followed our journey on this blog and who feel connected to our story.  We have been faithfully "followed" by people all over the world!  Pink cousins in Spain, Uncle Bob and Aunt Alice in Ireland, and by friends in Canada, Ethiopia, Croatia, Israel and Argentina.  And then there are the other adoptive families that have signed on and have told me how my journey and time in Ethiopia has informed theirs and helped them prepare for their own visits, mentally and physically.  Someone who I never met wrote the following:

"I cannot thank you enough for chronicling your journey and sharing details about everything from what Ethiopian court was like to the nuances of Embassy interaction. We are ALL learning from your experience there. I am so grateful to have come across your blog as a PAP [Prospective Adoptive Parent] also with AA [Adoption Avenues]. The information you continue to share has helped me so much in planning my time in Ethiopia. Thank you! (And your daughter is absolutely adorable! Congratulations!)"

Back in Denver, there is a very special community of teachers at the CMS Community school for whom our story became very real through Dorrie.  Dorrie is one of 9 women who share a modular trailer ("close quarters, no privacy, stories get shared...").  The "West Mod Gals" are, from left to right, Amy, Irish, Morgan, Kelli (with son, Asher), Lina and Dorrie.





Irish sewed Bami an ADORABLE dress for TBK (I will post pictures of that soon!).

Another teacher, Paula, was telling me about HER own adoption experience  about 25 years ago when she brought home her first baby girl from Korea (that "baby" is currently in law school!!,) followed by a boy a few years later.   Paula lovingly made us a beautiful quilt with the help of Dorrie, Jacob, Hope and Jordan. 



And we have had lots of visitors!  My first cousin, Kenny Klaiman, has gone giddy over TBK writing to me regularly in Ethiopia and how at home to share his excitement.  He came all the way from Bean Town to see us (the ski trip to Brek being secondary, I am sure:)


Cousin Jackie Haymon Katz also "swung by"--via Fairfield, CT, with her friend Carrie.


My "Little Sister," Wendy Aronson, thoughtfully organized friends from the Minyan Na'ale community to bring home cooked meals 3 times a week through a great website (http://www.takethemameal.com). 
WOW!!!!!!!!!!!  We are STILL enjoying this LUXURY and it is a great way to see and introduce TBK to some of these wonderful people:

Eliana Schonberg, Aviva and Tova Pearlman, Ilana Steinberg, Meredith, Ben and Zehava Levy, The Fine Geller Family, Ed Sitver, Lena, Eli and Kobi Fishman, Amy Berkowitz Caplan, Carla Kutnick and Wendy Aronson. 

Rabbi Steve Foster and Senator Joyce [Cohen] Foster (originally from Benton Harbor, MI) also came over a for fun visit bringing a library of goreous books from The Bookies that child-book expert Debby Foster picked out.  http://www.netnewsdesk.com/thebookies/

Irit Waldbam also visited and brought TBK a GORGEOUS sweater and hat which I will photograph and post later (and a yummy lasagna). Thank you, Irit!!!

Other talented knitters include Abby Kraft with a blanket, two hats and a pair of sexy legwarmers, Kimberly Sisneros who crochet a yummy blanket and our cousin in CT, Debbie Radom Landry, who made a wrap around sweater, hat and booties with the help of her entire knitting club (pictured below).  Thank you, ladies, for your labors of love that I will treasure always!!




We have also had some fun "girl dates."  My friend Lisa Bornstein has a beautiful baby girl named Mila who is just a few weeks older that Bami.  2 weeks ago, we took the girls to the Yves Saint Laurent retrospective at the Denver Art Museum, joined by Eliana, Dorrie, Jacob, Gimme/Bubbe and Popa.  It was fun to see 40 years of one man's genious and creativity and how much he influenced what we all wear today. 

Perhaps less culturally significant but no less fun, Dorrie, Gimme/Bubbe, Bami and I went to a matinee on Dorrie's last day of spring break.  Who knew, she said, that there is a whole population of people that go out to lunch and the movies during the day!  We saw the new Jennifer Westfelt film, Friends with Kids.  Gimme/Bubbe was prepared to take TBK out of the theatre if contemporary romantic comedies turned out to NOT be her thing but, wouldn't you know, super baby sat there in her Bob through the entire 1 hour and 40 minute film and loved it!!!!

We have also seen J.Mo and Bami's Ethiopian boyfriends a number of times, the first time was a nice walk around the lake on a chilly day....and most recently in El Jebel where we celebrated Passover together at Gimme/Bubbe and Popa's house.  More on that later.....


And then there are just those precious moments at home when I stare at her constantly feeling truly blessed.  She is a truly joyful girl, growing by the second.














More later......

Happy Easter, Happy Passover and Love from El Jebel,

--Jen and TBK





4 comments:

  1. Thanks for sharing your beautiful journey! Ive been following for a little over a month. Im a single adoptive Mom, just signed with AA. i brought my 2.8 yr old son home from Eth April 2011 (through a different agency). Its almost been a year...time flys by even faster since becoming a Mom! This time Im hoping for an infant as Id love to experience parenting a child from infancy. It will also be easier for my son to adjust to a child who cant talk yet and who he can "help" out with. I love that you were able to stay for over 3 mnths! That must have been amazing. I took two trips. My wait between court and returning for embassy was 4 months. It was agony waiting after having met my son!

    It still seems like blur. Similar to what you said, I still think "did I really go through a whole adoption process, fly twice to Eth, meet my sons birth father, pass wild monkeys and baboons...and complete a whole year of adjustment and parenting?!". It truly does seem surreal!

    Your daughter is beautiful!

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  2. Am thankful as usual for all your sharings,experience,thought,greatness and so on.This blog thing is amazing to learn a lot of things from you.Feels like you are there with us and me listening you.Tali is growing so fast and am so glad that she has a friend Mila,hope she is cute.A beautiful quilt,i like it.The comments that you got from someone you don't even know makes me really think that how you are so helpful for the people who want to adapt or visit ETHIOPIA.Please keep doing that.I love every story that you shared and there is a lot we can learn from every other ones that you will share in the future.Thank you so much for everything.May God bless you and your wonderful family,

    Love,
    Uncle Fits

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  3. Yay! I've still been checking your blog from time to time hoping for a Bami update... was so excited to see/read today how you ladies have been doing! Glad you're doing well! Tell Bami Hi from miss Sophie Ayantu!
    Sarah Owens

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